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Fighting Moral Temptation

Posted At : November 17, 2008 1:10 AM | Posted By : Sharon Betters
Related Categories: Adultery

Sixty percent of marriages are impacted by adultery. Those who have never experienced this temptation or fallen into this sin wonder why I regularly mention it in my blog. Because I've held broken women in my arms who wonder if they can ever trust any man again, let alone their husband and I know the damage doesn't stop with their hearts. The children never "get over it.." It's been called the last hidden sin of the church. Think of it, girls. IF the 60% statistic is correct, that means 60% of women in our church pews have been betrayed by their husbands OR they are betraying or have betrayed their husbands with adultery. As long as I have breath I will urge women to guard their marriages, to recognize that God created marriage to show a broken world what His family looks like and how the love of a husband and wife is reflective of the love of Christ for His church. Marriage is hard work and the culture does not and will not encourage you to do that work. My goal is to regularly mentioned this topic to urge women to take responsibility for themselves and to guard their hearts from this temptation.

But don't take it from me. We will soon launch our new Learning to See When the Lights Go Out interview titled, Adultery, Forgiveness and Redemption where you will hear from several people impacted by adultery. Some who have already heard it say it is one of the most profound resources we have developed. In the meantime, read this woman's testimony and her practical counsel on how to guard your heart against the temptation of adultery.


In His grip,
Sharon







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Anonymous's Gravatar Dear Mrs. Betters,

I was curious about the effects of adultery on children, especially later in life as adult children. I recently watched a movie about a woman whose father had ongoing marital affairs, and she repeated the same pattern as an adult--despite having a wonderful husband. She had to confront the pain of her father's infidelity in order to heal her own marriage. It would be interesting learn whether a person is more apt to cheat if they witness their parents cheat as a child. Furthermore, I wonder if, unconsciously, they internalize negative views on trust, marriage and intimacy that have long-lasting effects. I would love to hear thoughts of other readers.
# Posted By Anonymous | 2/20/09 9:24 PM
Michelle's Gravatar I am no expert, but it would seem likely that the children would absorb what they see as far as relationship problems go even if they were unaware of the actual affair. When there is an affair going on the way the spouses treat each other changes even if the affair is never mentioned. I am sure that children would pick up on this. I am wondering if this pattern of children repeating their parents relationship is similar to children of divorce, who tend to get divorced or choose to live together instead of marry much more often than children whose parents stay together. Children pick up on a lot of things in their environments that we do not even realize, and they process these things in the best way they can since they are still children and immature. Conjecture here, but I think that a child whose parents have been through infidelity would have the emotional "baggage" that would make them more likely to repeat the scenario in their own life, but I do not think they are doomed to repeat the mistakes of their parents. No matter what happens in their parents lives the (adult) children still are responsible for their own choices.
# Posted By Michelle | 2/23/09 9:12 AM
Sharon's Gravatar A good question but my only context for an answer is anecdotal. I know of families where there seemed to be a generational sin of unfaithfulness until an adult child decided the sin would stop with him or her. I don't think children are doomed to repeat the sins of the parents. However, they should look closely at the sin patterns and identify their own weak areas where the enemy could strike. Whether that sin is alcohol or drug abuse, adultery, gossip, hatred, selfishness - our family environment will impact us. Hopefully, the result will be that we recognize the damage of the sin and will take every psosible step to break the chain of its power. Good discussion. Thanks, girls!
# Posted By Sharon | 2/23/09 11:09 PM
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