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Four Weeks with God and Your Neighbor, #5

Posted At : April 30, 2008 10:54 PM | Posted By : Sharon Betters
Related Categories: Change

Ok, so the first week of Four Weeks with God and Your Neighbor challenges me to identify specific sins and to create a plan of action. If a certain circumstance occurs that tempts me to sin, then I will respond in a specific way. My response to this assignment looks like this, "If I am confronted with someone else's conflict, I will refuse to draw conclusions based on the presenting person's words. Instead I will withhold judgment and encourage the speaker to go back to the person with whom they are in conflict and try to resolve the issues between the two of them."

What sin am I putting off? Listening to a bad report and impulsively judging another's heart and behavior. What behavior am I putting on? Refusing to enter into another's conflict and challenging the people involved to resolve their differences biblically rather than adding fire to the conflict with gossip.

Just slapping on a new behavior will not result in a new heart. I am convinced that I must identify the part of my worldview that is flawed before I will see genuine behavioral change in any area of my life.

Breaking sin habits is tedious and hard. Sometimes it's even boring because there is no magic pill. I must follow my choice to change with action. But the harder part is digging into the root of the thinking that drives my actions.

I must identify and admit the pleasure I gain from this particular sin.

In 2 Timothy 3:1-4 is a list of sins of the "last days." Paul, the writer of this passage ends this list with identifying the root thinking that drives these sins: People are lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.

Again, ouch. It's painful to admit that when faced with a choice to either obey (reflect Christ) or disobey (sin), pleasure derived from the sin drives my choice in areas unchanged by Christ's presence. My mind quickly sorts through my options and weighs my behavior on my pleasure scales. If I am to really see change, I must be honest about why I choose evil.

This exercise is getting painful.

In His Grip,
Sharon

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Jane's Gravatar I have read each of your entries and I totally agree that zeroing in on the WHY of our sinful behavior is a key to overcoming it - for me, anyway. It helps me so much to see what is REALLY going on in my heart. Recently when I realized (or it was pointed out to me) that I was taking up an offense, giving satan a foothold and blocking my ability to think (and love) with an eternal perspective, I couldn't WAIT to throw off that sin!

This exercise is paramount when parenting - getting to the HEART of the issue. Parenting has given me good practice at "diagnosing" heart conditions. :)

I am wondering if spiritual sibling rivalry is a root cause of many "church sins" (like gossip). We each want to think we are better than our brother or sister and so we enjoy finding fault in those who are actually our own family, trying to live for the same Kingdom. It seems to me that when I focus on the Kingdom and eternal things, then a lot of the distracting stuff falls away. It is humbling to put myself aside, but as you have reminded me, God gives grace to the humble and that is a GREAT place to be!
# Posted By Jane | 5/1/08 8:26 AM
Melanie's Gravatar I agree that it is hard to put off old sinful habits and put on new Godly charactistics. I find that I become spiritually parched and do not handle every day stresses as well when I am not faithfully in the Word. Recently I meditated on Psalm 51 as we were encouraged from the pulpit to do. It just so happened that the same reading from a devotional book I am going through was from Psalm 51 that same day. It was a gentle reminder to me that God shows Himself in little ways more often to us when we spend time in His Word. Sometimes we wonder where God is, but He has given us Himself through Scripture in a very tangible way. When I am not daily reading it and praying, I don't encounter God as often. Those are the times I know the rocks are crying out in my place. May that not happen as often as it does! As I studied Psalm 51, I wrote down all the characteristics of God and compared them to man's characteristics displayed in the chapter. For each of His characteristics, we display a characteristic that proves our need for Him. What a beautiful picture of redemption!
# Posted By Melanie | 5/2/08 2:40 PM
Sharon's Gravatar Think of it! The God of the Universe - of all Creation - longs for us to spend time with Him and in His Word. It seems that during the most vulnerable times in my life are the times I soak in His Word and by doing so, my eyes are opened to the treasures He has sent to help turn my heart toward Him. Yet there are times I "spend time in the Word" because it's my habit or I'm trying to be disciplined....and my heart stays indifferent to His presence because like Martha, I'm distracted by so many other things! How good to know His love is never distracted, never too busy, never far away. How many treasures designed by Him to help turn my heart toward His love have I missed on those days?
# Posted By Sharon | 5/7/08 5:06 PM
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