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I Believe in Christmas

Posted At : December 23, 2010 8:03 PM | Posted By : Dr. Chuck Betters
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Gripping Thoughts with Dr. Chuck Betters

I Believe in Christmas.

I believe Christmas is the day when Christians celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ, the Son of God and our Messiah. I believe it is not a mere holiday but a Holy day. I believe every person reading this has the right to respectfully disagree with me and to see this day as merely a part of the "Holiday" season devoid of any religious significance.

I believe most of us men need to step back, take a deep breath and figure out how to wrap a present without cutting the paper too short and string a bow without slicing off our fingers.

I believe that we need to unearth the Christmas tree light mole that seems to always figure out a way to destroy the very same string of lights that were working just fine last year when we neatly wrapped and stored them.

I believe Jesus is saddened when those who disbelieve throw Christ out of Christmas. However, He is more deeply offended when those who call Him Lord forget what this day is all about.

I believe that my 14 grandkids, with sparkling eyes, will have their socks blessed off at the Christmas Eve service when the lights in the church are dimmed, the candles are lit and the hymn medley slowly builds toward the official launch of Christmas when the congregation belts out with one voice "O Holy Night."

I believe Christmas will usher in a season of great pain for those who are lonely, discouraged and forsaken. I believe we need to not only hear the jingle of the Salvation Army bells but catch a vision for the plight of the homeless, the hungry and the helpless souls who are all around us. I believe we need to hear the silent screams of the prisoner, the orphan, the abused and the widow who will sit in jail cells, shelters and nursing homes watching the doors and anxiously waiting for someone to remember to bring them good tidings of great joy. May they find the peace God promised to give to those who seek His face.

I believe "Mary Did You Know?" written by Mark Lowry with music by Buddy Green will become one of the greatest Christmas songs of all time and that "The Twelve Days of Christmas" is already the worst (It is a myth that this song was a secret hymn with veiled symbolism).

I believe on Christmas morning my wife and I will hear the faint echoes of the laughter in the walls of our home as we remember how our now grown kids waited impatiently at the top of the stairs for the signal to pounce upon their presents.

I believe that the true Christmas message is this - God sent His Son into the world to reconcile and redeem fallen man by His death on a cross. I also believe that same spirit of reconciliation is to be extended into the countless fractured relationships, estranged marriages and broken friendships that have grieved many and brought great sorrow throughout the year.

I believe that the soldiers who protect our freedoms are to be especially remembered and that we must pray that all wars will one day cease. I believe there is real evil in the world and that these brave warriors must stare down its ugly throat every day even as they long to come home.

I believe in Christmas, I really do. I believe in the mystique of the virgin birth, the shepherds in the fields, the angelic chorus, the great love story of Joseph and Mary, a divinely unhooked star and the visit of the wise men.

But I also believe that many will miss the message of the prophet who declared 750 years before the birth of Jesus... For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father and the Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6).

In His grip,

Dr. Chuck Betters



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Leaning Into the Pain of Christmas Grief

Posted At : December 25, 2008 5:00 AM | Posted By : Dr. Chuck Betters
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Gripping Thoughts with Dr. Chuck Betters

Well, here we are. Christmas Day. If you are in deep grief, this moment confronts you with a hard choice, a choice that you must make within the context of your own circumstances. Perhaps you've already decided to avoid

all cultural reminders of Christmas and curl up at home by yourself or with a few special friends and immediate family. If you are fresh in your grief, that might be the right decision for you in your unique circumstances. Maybe you are looking forward to attending a Christmas Day church service, fully expecting the soft lights, Christmas songs and Christmas ambiance to magnify your pain but hoping that the celebration of Christ's birth will somehow satisfy the longings in your heart.

For wisdom in making daily choices in this foreign land of grief, we eavesdrop on an ancient conversation. It's in this verbal exchange that God gives the mother of all gifts to Abraham and everyone in Abraham's family (which includes you if you are a child of God). To begin to understand the deep emotion of this moment, reach back into your own treasure chest of memories and recollect the delight and joy you experienced when you gave your loved one a priceless gift. That's how we imagine God felt when Abraham began unwrapping this precious gift placed in his hands by the very heart of God. Abraham was not seeking God and we think he was a moon worshipper. In this unique conversation (Genesis 12:1-3) God says (my translation), "Abraham, you're my child now. I chose you. From this moment on, I am binding you to me, I will walk with you. As we walk through life together, I will teach you what it means to be my child. When you are faced with difficult choices and painful circumstances, remember this. I am with you always. I will bless you. You in turn will be a blessing to others. Through you I am creating a community, a family with more people than you can count. You will be a blessing to others and this covenant community will be a blessing to many because of my Presence."

In Genesis 15:1 God continues this conversation with the words: "Do not be afraid, Abram, I am your shield, your very great reward." In response to Abram's fear, God promises His Presence which is the greatest protection and reward of all.

So what does this have to do with my life choices? Or what to do on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day? Sharon often said that when Mark went to heaven, he took her mind with him. She couldn't think straight and to this day admits she has trouble making quick decisions. But God did not leave either of us without a grid through which to push life decisions. In Galatians Paul declares, "If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise."

Our decisions start with this truth: I belong to Christ. That makes me Abraham's seed which means I am part of the fulfillment of God's promise to build a huge family from the seed of Abraham. Therefore, the same promises He made to Abraham are part of my eternal inheritance. Every promise God made to Abraham belongs to me and to you if you know Jesus as your Savior. What are those promises? God promises me His Presence, that He will bless me, that I am part of a covenant community (spiritual family). It's in that family that I will experience blessings and learn how to be a blessing. Because of these promises, we look forward to being with our church family on Christmas Eve and family on Christmas Day. We know that being with them will nourish our souls and encourage us to believe that God is sovereign and we can trust Him. It's because of God's promise to make me a blessing to others that we choose to celebrate Christmas with loved ones rather than isolate ourselves in sorrow. These choices are sometimes difficult when our spirits are overcome by longing for Mark, but choosing to walk by faith in these moments often soothes our souls and supernaturally restores our hearts.

Stop for a moment and let this truth sink in. In the middle of your deep grief, daughter or son of the King, when you are so afraid of the future that you can barely breathe, so terrified of another phone call or knock on the door that could change your life forever, listen to the words God speaks to you through the promises to Abraham. Trace this promise throughout scripture:

Abram, Do not be afraid, I will be with you.
Isaac, do not be afraid, I will be with you.
Jacob, do not be afraid, I will be with you.
Joshua, do not be afraid, I will be with you.
Gideon, do not be afraid, I will be with you.
Jeremiah, do not be afraid, I will be with you.
Paul, do not be afraid, I will be with you.
And Jesus to His disciples as He descended into heaven,
Do not be afraid, I will be with you.

Each one of these individuals had genuine reason to be
afraid. God's call on their lives required them to do very hard tasks, to suffer deep pain, to walk by faith when all they could see was darkness. God's antidote to their fear was not to explain the why or how or even the solution to their challenge. He didn't tell them not to worry, everything would work out ok. No. God's response to their fear was the promise of His Presence. His method of comforting our broken hearts is the same. He doesn't tell us why our loved ones are gone. What answer would be good enough? Instead, He calls out, "Sharon, don't be afraid, I am with you. Trust my heart."

The book of Hebrews was written to frightened believers who were ready to give up. The writer uses every truth possible to encourage them to trust God with the unknown and in the last chapter he proclaims,

God Himself has said, 'I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. I will not, I will not, I will not in any way or degree leave you helpless nor forsake you nor let you down, relax my hold on you. Assuredly not! (Hebrews 13:5, Amplified)

However you are spending Christmas, set aside time to reflect on this great gift of Christmas Presence. Ponder that first Christmas, the joy God experienced when He unveiled the fulfillment of His promise to Abraham, when He wrapped up His Son in the package of human flesh and delivered Him through the body of a young girl. And realize that He was thinking of how much you would need the reality of His Presence as you walked by faith in the Land of Grief. Give yourself permission to laugh, to share memories. Lean into the pain of grief and as you weep, listen for the whisper of God,

"My child, do not be afraid, I am with you."

We also encourage you to visit the website of Griefshare where you will find more articles on Surviving the Holidays. This is one of the best sites we have found for grieving families: http://www.griefshare.org/holidays/#articles

With much love to all,
Chuck and Sharon Betters

Christmas Pain

Posted At : December 13, 2008 12:40 PM | Posted By : Dr. Chuck Betters
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Gripping Thoughts with Dr. Chuck Betters



Grief comes in all different sized packages. Our grief journey started with the sudden deaths of our sixteen-year-old son, Mark, and his friend, Kelly. Thirteen years later, I still wish I could erase mid-November through mid-January. Whether you are grieving loss through death, a broken relationship, a prodigal child, loss of health, holidays often magnify the sorrow.

Like many families, we reserved special gifts and fun surprises for the Christmas season. We loved all the glitz of the holiday, the lights, decorations, the anticipation of a white Christmas and our house rang with Christmas music as soon after Thanksgiving as possible. We enjoyed the special times with friends and family during our Christmas Eve Open House but we especially loved our Christmas Eve communion service. From the first year of our marriage Sharon and I had shared communion on this night of nights and it seemed to seal the life-driving force of Christ's calling.

On our way home from the hospital on that horrible July night of our son's death, I grabbed my wife's hand and whispered, "Christmas, what will we do with Christmas?"

As I prepared Christmas messages for our congregation, unfathomable grief opened my eyes to the pain and blood that surrounded the birth of our Savior, God's only son (Christmas Pain, 93-101). Sharon wrote in her journal:

Journal Entry, Sunday, December 19, 1993. Chuck's message gives me permission to step back from the glitz of Christmas without guilt. For some reason it helps me to know that the coming of Messiah was a time of pain and weeping. Jesus did not come as a conquering king but a suffering servant. Click here to finish reading the article...

In His Grip,
PB

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