G.R.A.C.E.
Gently Radiating A Christ-like Example

“Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gains understanding, for the gain of her is better than gain from silver, and her profit better than gold.” Proverbs 3:13, 14

Grief(s): What is the believing wife’s responsibility when she sees the adverse affect her husband’s single friends have on him, their relationship, and their family?

Response:
• Pray, seeking guidance from the Holy Spirit and a hedge of protection around your family.
• Be discerning about the single people near your husband: 
  ~ What are their intentions? 
  ~ What have you observed?
  ~ Are they male or female?
  ~ Are they family needing advice, etc.?
  ~ What has drawn them together?
    – work, hobbies, someone needing a favor?
• Is your husband looking for ‘greener grass’, or innocently being drawn into what could become an awkward situation?
  ~ Where is his attention toward you and your children while the other person is around?
• Depend on God for wisdom.
  “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” James 1:5

Affirm:   You and your husband need to understand you are a team – therefore,

Decide together what friends and family are worthy of your time.  
Discuss any new relationship or friendship that arises.
Don’t take each other for granted.
Devote yourselves to each other.
Determine to stay trustworthy.

Connect:  Beware!  Satan is out to destroy the family.  The Proverbs 31 woman “looks well to the ways of her household.”  Guard your husband morally, since he isn’t aware of the spiritual forces around him.

Equip:    

Do keep the private details of your life private.
Don’t become too familiar with anyone, (phone calls and/or visits).
Do keep friendships with singles at a surface level.
Don’t allow cross-gender visits anywhere, at any time, for any reason!
Do have open communication with each other.
Don’t give the root of jealousy growing space.
      
Do find other couples and cultivate friendships that are encouraging, fun, wholesome, and morally without reproach.

G.R.A.C.E. Gem: Your relationship with Jesus blesses your marriage and is sacred to God.  Until your husband comes to faith and can be his own spiritually moral compass, your wisdom and creativity in gathering a hedge of protection around him is vitally important.

Recommended Reading:
Creative Counterpart, Linda Dillow, Nelson Publishers
What Makes a Man Feel Loved, Bob Barnes, Harvest House Publishers
Amplified Bible, Old Testament, Proverbs 24:3