How Do I Deal With Emotional Abuse?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "People quickly recognize the pain and sin of physical abuse but what about emotional abuse. I know that everyone is sinful and the tongue can be a weapon but how far is too far? My husband doesn’t curse me out (so to speak) but yet his words hurt, they break my heart, he is controlling and manipulative but yet when I try to talk about anything he just insists it’s all my fault and that I am the problem. I’ve heard you tell people they need to search themselves and look in the mirror and I am really trying to do that because I know that I am bringing my own sin behaviors into the relationship but I am desperate to put Christ in the center of my marriage and I don’t know how to do that when my partner is focused on tearing me down in order to deem himself blameless."