Posts in Endurance in Suffering
How Can We Save Our Loved Ones?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hi my brother grew up Christian, and went to college to be a pastor. During those years he struggled with alcoholism. He prayed to God to help him conquer that but he felt betrayed by God because he struggled with it for many more years and even gave up trying to preach. He now says that he doesn't even believe in God because if he really existed he would have taken that from him. He then takes it further and says he can't believe in a God who lets children and babies and even adults suffer, all the while keeping their neighbor safe. How can I try and bring him back to God other than praying for him?"

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Can one be saved and then choose to turn away from God?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Is it "once saved always saved"? Or can one be saved and chose to turn away from God? Hebrews 6:4-6 says “It is impossible for those who have once been enlightened, who have tasted the heavenly gift, who have shared in the Holy Spirit, who have tasted the goodness of the word of God and the powers of the coming age and who have fallen away, to be brought back to repentance. To their loss they are crucifying the Son of God all over again and subjecting him to public disgrace. Land that drinks in the rain often falling on it and that produces a crop useful to those for whom it is farmed receives the blessing of God. But land that produces thorns and thistles is worthless and is in danger of being cursed. In the end it will be burned.”

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My wife keeps leaving me and coming back. Can I divorce her the next time she leaves?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "My wife was diagnosed with bipolar and she refuses to admit it, therefore she is not medicated. Over the last 4 years she has left me (and our daughter) several times. Each time she tells me she wants a divorce and I tell her I don’t want a divorce so she leaves. Then, a few months later she apologizes and wants to come back home. Every time I take her back because isn’t that what Christ does for us? My question is, would it ever be okay for me to say, “enough!” Can I ever go through with a divorce?"

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It is ever okay to give-up on living and go home to Heaven?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am 75 years old and my health has slowly been deteriorating over the past 5 years. Recently, my health has gotten much worse and it is unlikely I will ever have a decent quality of life again. I am in constant pain and I need assistance to do even the simplest things. When is it okay to “give up” and go home? I know suicide is wrong, but is it wrong to just stop fighting to live when you’ve lived a full life."

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"My wife of 41 years died...Is it wrong for me to pray to die too?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I lost my wife of 41 years this year on February 19th. My life is so empty I love God even though I don't understand why she had to die from stage 4 colon cancer. I was mad at God for taking her I have asked him for forgiveness and thanked him for giving us 41 years of a perfect marriage. My question is: Is it wrong for me to ask him to bring me home now also?"

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