Job’s Friends, Part 2
A despairing man should have the devotion of his friends, even though he forsakes the fear of the Almighty. But my brothers are as undependable as intermittent streams as the streams that overflow when darkened by thawing ice and swollen with melting snow, but that cease to flow in the dry seasons, and in the heat vanish from their channels.
When your friend expresses her bitterness or questions God, don’t feel compelled to answer her. God is not afraid of her questions. He is bigger than any of them. Like a terrified little child running to her daddy, she can run to Him with all of the doubt, anger, and fear. She can crawl up into His lap, feel His embrace, and beat on His chest while He holds her tightly in His grip. And like a little child, slump exhausted into the safety of His arms as unconditional love flows from His heart to hers.
Perhaps you are that one who needs to run to your Father and pour out all of your anger and fear and grief and doubts. Such dependency on Him draws you to His heart and deepens intimacy with Jesus. When you have no answers for your friend or yourself, acknowledge your own confusion, lament before the Lord, pray transparently, trust that He is holding you tightly in His grip. If your friend does not know Jesus, pray for the Holy Spirit to open her eyes to His love and grace.
LIFE GIVING ENCOURAGEMENT
As you enter the darkness with a friend, you will share her questions and doubts. You will most likely ask the same questions. God is not afraid of your questions. He is bigger than any of them. Recognize that there are some questions that will never be answered adequately and there will be a time when you will need to focus on what you know about God, rather than on what you do not know. Pray as you visit, that you will know when your friend needs more help with her questions than you can give her.
STORE UP MORE TREASURES
At some point in our lives, we or someone we know will go through great suffering. I encourage you to go the MARKINC website and listen to the Adultery audio resource so that you can store up treasures of encouragement for the next rainy day in your life or someone else's. Here is a summary and teaser of this resource:
Adultery. Infidelity. Betrayal. No one wants to hear those words or experience such devastation. Some who have felt its power say it is the worst pain one human being can inflict on another because it is the epitome of rejection by someone who should love you. Here you will hear a betrayed wife whose husband did not repent share her pathway to forgiveness and redemption.