Submitting Myself To An Abusive Man?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hi Dr. Betters! I am a 24-year-old female and I have a question about marriage. I know that wives are supposed to submit themselves to their husbands. However, every female family member of mine (my mother, grandmother, aunts, etc.) submitted themselves to their husbands and ended up being abused and controlled by them. The idea of submitting myself underneath a future husband makes me feel so uncomfortable that I would rather live a life of singleness. However, I want to have children in the future. What should I do?"