Posts in Suffering
Our Adult Child Hates Us, Help!

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "We ask daily, "How long O' Lord" will our grown married adult child continue to break our hearts with hate and anger, abandoning us at critical times, refuse us our first glances or permit any access to our precious new grandchildren, and blame/berate us for the deep heartache they have suffered at the hands of their beloved church long ago? What does the heartbreaking process of letting go consist of, please, and where do we begin? We are losing Hope of any reconciliation. Thanks for the scripture."

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What Are Your Thoughts On Premature Death?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Please pray for me, I'm grieving the loss of my husband of 37+ years and no one understands me. I believe that there were some errors in his ICU care and I believe correlates to his condition wording and me being falsely advised of his condition, to cover up the mistakes that led to him passing away. I felt rushed by everyone around me to make a decision to take him off life support. My heart is broken and my grief has been magnified. I have a strong faith in God and I don't want to broaden the grief of my children or other family members. I want to look into my concerns, but I'm grieving too hard and no one is really wanting to help me. Do you have a recommendation? I know God doesn't make mistakes, but I know man did. What are your thoughts on premature death?"

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How Can We Save Our Loved Ones?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Hi my brother grew up Christian, and went to college to be a pastor. During those years he struggled with alcoholism. He prayed to God to help him conquer that but he felt betrayed by God because he struggled with it for many more years and even gave up trying to preach. He now says that he doesn't even believe in God because if he really existed he would have taken that from him. He then takes it further and says he can't believe in a God who lets children and babies and even adults suffer, all the while keeping their neighbor safe. How can I try and bring him back to God other than praying for him?"

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How Can I Pursue Jesus When Everything Is Okay?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I’ve watched a bunch of your videos and it breaks my heart to hear about all the pain and suffering people are dealing with. To be honest, right now I feel like my life is going really well, no major issues, no struggles, no problems but after watching your videos I realized that I am not really deepening my relationship with Christ because, well, “things are good”. I mean, people seem to need Jesus more when they are hurting but how do you need Him just as much when things are ok?"

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I am afraid to pray for patience. What should I do?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I have three sons, two have have special needs. I am overwhelmed by how hard it is to care for my boys. I want to pray for patience, but I am afraid that if I pray for patience God will make my life unbearably hard in order to teach me patience. I cannot handle things being any worse than they are now so I don't pray to God and ask for patience...What should I do?"

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Can one be saved and then choose to turn away from God?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "Is it "once saved always saved"? Or can one be saved and chose to turn away from God? Hebrews 6:4-6 says “It is impossible for those who have once been enlightened, who have tasted the heavenly gift, who have shared in the Holy Spirit, who have tasted the goodness of the word of God and the powers of the coming age and who have fallen away, to be brought back to repentance. To their loss they are crucifying the Son of God all over again and subjecting him to public disgrace. Land that drinks in the rain often falling on it and that produces a crop useful to those for whom it is farmed receives the blessing of God. But land that produces thorns and thistles is worthless and is in danger of being cursed. In the end it will be burned.”

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