Posts in Parenting
Can I View God As A Motherly Figure?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I grew up in a very abusive home. My father was a terrible man and has caused me great pain and suffering. My mother finally got the courage to leave him but the damage was already done. I am now in my 30’s and have recently begun attending church. I just heard a sermon that was all about viewing God as our father and it caused me to want to vomit because it made me think about all the horrible things my father did to me. I just can’t go there, I can’t use that image. Is it wrong to view God as a “motherly” figure? (refer to Isaiah 66:13, 49:15)"

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Should I seek out my Birth Father?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I grew up in a really rough neighborhood, I mean, really rough. Drugs and prostitution were all around me as a boy. I always thought my dad dies when I was a toddler...at least that is what my mother always told me. Now I am in the 20’s and recently found out that she has been lying to me all these years. The truth is, she has no idea who my dad is as she was selling herself in order to pay the bills which is painful to even think about. Part of me wants to find him and know who my dad is but the other part of me struggles with the fact that he was someone willing to pay and essentially abuse a women just for sex. Is it wrong not to look for him now that I know he might still be alive?"

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I am afraid to pray for patience. What should I do?

In this episode, Dr. Betters answers the question, "I have three sons, two have have special needs. I am overwhelmed by how hard it is to care for my boys. I want to pray for patience, but I am afraid that if I pray for patience God will make my life unbearably hard in order to teach me patience. I cannot handle things being any worse than they are now so I don't pray to God and ask for patience...What should I do?"

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Can I get re-married?

In this episode Dr. Betters answers the question, "I am a single parent of two teenage girls. I divorced my husband 5 years ago after he severely beat me. I have now met a man that loves the Lord and loves his kids and I believe he would make a wonderful father for my girls. His ex-wife was unfaithful to him. Biblically, are we allowed to remarry? Would you recommend it?"

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